Balance, is it a Myth?
Everyone strives for balance and harmony in their lives, or so they say, but is there a difference?
If you are striving to have balance in your life, then by the definition, you will have to ease up on something or give it up to bring your life in balance. In the end you might not be fulfilled by having to give something up that brought you some pleasure in life. Granted, if what you had to give up was causing you or those around you pain, then it’s understandable.
While many of us say that we want to have balance in life, do we really want to have something always pulling on us?
Balance is a sticky subject among many people. We have careers, partners, children, family commitments, charity work, classes, hobbies, worship time – plus, big desires to improve our health. How can one possibly balance so many things?
I’m going to let you in on a little secret here: You can’t.
Balance. Is It A Myth?
This leads us to harmony. “Harmony” is an easier goal than balance.
Life is full of challenges and we face them every day in our relationships, friendships and in our professional lives. Learning to work through these challenges and not letting them overwhelm you by accepting and understanding them and by working through them and eventually embracing them, you can have a more fulfilling life. At the same time, embracing the good things that come to you in life and taking advantage of these moments will make life that much more enjoyable.
Harmony means everything is co-existing in a spirit of cooperation. But whatever you want to call it – harmony, balance, or “fitting it all in” – there is a secret to doing more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.
Like Forrest Gump said, “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.” Instead of trying to achieve balance in your life and always fighting or dealing with opposing forces, try to find harmony with everything that comes to you and embrace it. Accepting the challenges that come to you in life and working to improve the areas that bring you joy in life will open up the space for new possibilities which in turn will make your life more fulfilling.
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I just need to warn you that although the equation sounds simple, it actually takes massive willpower to execute. It also requires that you get absolutely clear on what you want your life to look like, and what you do not want in your life.
Ready? Okay, here’s the secret:
- First ask yourself what isn’t serving you. What doesn’t need to be in your life? What is dragging you down? Keeping you awake at night?
- Have you identified a few things? Now get rid of them (or fix them – now).
- Next, ask yourself what you want in your life – or in this week or day? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be with? Focus your energy on these things. Anything that doesn’t fit into this larger scheme… let it go (or learn how to say “no”).
Ready to dive in and make a few changes? Give these tips a try and see how much more harmonious your life can be. No balance required.
Stay Healthy and Happy Hearty Souls ☺